"tum ho to gata hai dil , tum nahi to geet kahan" there s always some1 in every1's life whom would they think of after reading this line. every1 has felt that adrenaline rush when that first crush happens. and that feeling of falling in for a person . life is all roses.
but at certain times things just dont fall in place. I mean when two people are together , only two things can happen. either they grow with each other or they grow away from each other.so why does that feeling just go away...
1. perception - there is a big difference between what two people want out of a relationship? and more than the other person , its important you know , what kind of a relationship you want .
2. pretending to be someone else - consciously or subconsciously everyone falls in this trap of impressing their beloved by trying to become someone they are not.its okay for sometime till the period of puppy love persists, after that it becomes suffocating. if someone cant love you , for who you are, there s no point. love is not about changing yourself, its about being at peace with yourself . you dont need love to complete you , you need love to celebrate life.
3. insecurities- biggest fear of love is the secret fear of not being worthy of being loved. in a relationship even the most calm and confident people behave in strange ways. the fear of losing someone close to you is too much.everyone has their share of insecurities. the trick is to be truthful to yourself and having trust in your relationship.
4. communication gap- taking it for granted that people close to you will understand themselves,what you mean is just not fair.if you cant express yourself even to the person you love most in life, something needs to be done. its not for others to guess whats up in your mind, its for you to say.
5.possesiveness- what belongs to you is yours , you dont need to stress it every moment.
its more like asking someone to live in a golden cage. what every person wants in life is to be incharge of it.
6. priorities- the most important issue these days .everyone has different priorities in life and yes they keep changing with time. so how important is a relationship to u, how much you value what you have. its very easy to fall in love , but to stay in love for life you need dedication.
try your best you can always make a relationship a success if you want , just dont stretch things too much , let it loose ,it will stay if it is worth it......and as they say you can never lose something you never had.
P.S. - anyone can 'get' what/whom they want, but then love is something else.
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